My Guardian Angel

Last Friday I went to a friend’s house with my crew just to hang out. After the super delicious meal that her Mom prepared for us nag-simula na ang kantahan! Of course I did not sing with the mic…nakikikanta lang. Ehehehe..shy type ang lola niyo eh!

Right after dinner sinerve na ng Mama ng friend ko yung Red wine sa amin…nahiya naman ako lalo kasi sobrang pag-aasikaso naman nila sa amin. Di pa ubos yung red wine pumasok na yung ibang mga guys na nag-iinuman sa labas ng bahay nila timing rin naman ang pagpasok nila kasi biglang buhos naman ang napaka-lakas na ulan.

When it started raining that hard eh kinalimutan ko na rin yung hopes na baka magkita pa kami ni Bakla. Since I won’t be going anywhere afterwards eh naki-inom na rin ako with my friends.

Before midnight we all decided to go home na rin. Sa may kanto isinakay muna ako ng mga friends ko bago sila umuwi. I am not familiar with that place and I was planning to take the cab home na lang but the thing is inaalala kong baka hindi enough yung barya ko at baka mabad-trip sakin yung driver pag binayaran ko ng 500 bucks.

Malas ko lang yung jeep na nasakyan ko eh pauwi na pala…gagarahe na. As a result I got in the middle of nowehere…nakonsensya yata yung driver matapos niyang tanggapin ang 20 bucks na binayad ko eh hindi rin pala ako makakauwi sa dapat kong babaan he waited for me hanggang sa maka-kuha ako ng cab.

Sa dami ng cab na pumasok at lumabas sa looban na yun nahirapan pa rin ako kumuha ng cab. Mabuti na lang dumating ang isang anghel! May papalabas nang cab noon eh pinara ko pero hindi siya nag-stop then suddenly binalikan niya ako at sinakay sa cab niya. Tinanong ako ng cab driver kung anong ginagawa ko sa lugar na’yun…apparently delikado pala dun sa lugar na’yun kaya lahat ng cab na papasok dun eh hindi na kumukuha pa ng pasahero from there…eh naawa lang daw siya sa akin dahil babae ako and it seemed na parang di ako taga doon sa lugar na’yun kaya niya ako binalikan. Madami daw kasing mangho-hold-up dun, snatchers at kung anu-ano pa.

I was very thankful at hindi ako iniiwan ng guardian angel ko. Sa sobrang takot at nerbyos ko tinawagan ko ang isang taong gusto kong maka-usap man lang bago pa may mangyaring kung ano sa akin.

10 Ways To Marry The Wrong Person

(This goes out to you guys who are planning to get married and for those na rin who are in a serious relationship.)



10 Ways To Marry The Wrong Person
by Rabbi Dov Heller, M.A.

With the divorce rate over 50 percent, too many are apparently making a
serious mistake in deciding who to spend the rest of their life with. To
avoid becoming a "statistic," try to internalize these 10
insights.

#1. You pick the wrong person because you expect him/her to change after
you're married.

The classic mistake. Never marry potential. The golden rule is, if you
can't be happy with the person the way he or she is now, don't get married.
As a colleague of mine so wisely put it, "You actually can expect people to
change after their married... for the worst!" So when it comes to the other
person's spirituality, character, personal hygiene, communication skills,
and personal habits, make sure you can live with these as they are now.

#2. You pick the wrong person because you focus more on chemistry than on
character.

Chemistry ignites the fire, but good character keeps it burning. Beware of
the "I'm in love" syndrome. "I'm in love" often means, "I'm in lust".
Attraction is there, but have you carefully checked out this person's
character?

Here are four character traits to definitely check for:

Humility: Does this person believe that "doing the right thing" is more
important than personal comfort? Do I want to be more like this person?
Would I like my child to turn out like him or her?

Kindness: Does this person enjoy giving pleasure to other people? How does
she treat people she doesn't have to be nice to? Does she do volunteer
work? Give charity?

Responsibility: Can I depend on this person to do what she says? she's
going to do?

Happiness: Does this person like himself? Does she enjoy life? Is she
emotionally stable?

Ask yourself: Do I want to be more like this person? Do I want to have a
child with this person? Would I like my child to turn out like him or her?

#3. You pick the wrong person because the man doesn't understand what a
woman needs most.

Men and women have unique emotional needs, and more often than not, it is
the man who just doesn't "get it." Jewish tradition places the onus on the
man to understand the emotional needs of a woman and to satisfy them. The
unique need of a woman is to be loved -- to feel that she is the most
important person in her husband's life. The husband needs to give her
consistent, quality attention. This is most apparent in Judaism's
approach to sexual intimacy. The Torah obligates the husband to meet the
sexual needs of his wife. Sexual intimacy is always on the woman's terms.
Men are goal-oriented, especially when it comes this area. As a wise woman
once pointed out, "Men have two speeds: on and off." Women are
experience-oriented. When a man is able to switch gears and become more
experience-oriented, he will discover what makes his wife very happy. When
the man forgets about his own needs and focuses on giving his wife
pleasure, amazing things happen.

#4. You choose the wrong person because you do not share common life goals
and priorities.

There are three basic ways we connect with another person:

1. chemistry and compatibility
2. share common interests
3. share common life goal

Make sure you share the deeper level of connection that sharing life goals
provide. After marriage, the two of you will either grow together or grow
apart. To avoid growing apart, you must figure out what you're "living
for," while you're single -- and then find someone who has come to the same
conclusion as you.

This is the true definition of a "soul mate." A soul mate is a goal mate --
two people who ultimately share the same understanding of life's purpose
and therefore share the same priorities, values and goals.

#5. You choose the wrong person because you get involved sexually too
quickly.

Sexual involvement before the commitment of marriage can be a big problem
because it often precludes a fully honest exploration of important issues.
Sexual involvement tends to cloud one's mind. And a clouded mind is not
inclined to make good decisions.

Of all the studies done on divorce, sexual incompatibility is never cited
as a main factor. It is not necessary to take a "test drive" in order to
find out if a couple is sexually compatible. If you do your homework and
make sure you are intellectually and emotionally compatible, you don't have
to worry about sexual compatibility. Of
all the studies done on divorce, sexual incompatibility is never cited as a
main reason why people divorce.

#6. You pick the wrong person because you do not have a deeper emotional
connection with this person.

To evaluate whether you have a deeper emotional connection or not, ask: "Do
I respect and admire this person?" This does not mean, "Am I impressed by
this person?" We are impressed by a Mercedes. We do not respect someone
because they own Mercedes. You should be impressed by qualities of
creativity, loyalty, determination, etc. Also ask: "Do I trust this
person?" This also means, "Is he/she emotionally stable?" Do I feel I can
rely on him/her?

#7. You pick the wrong person because you choose someone with whom you
don't feel emotionally safe.

Ask yourself the following questions:
Do I feel calm, peaceful and relaxed with this person? Can I fully be
myself and express myself with this person?

Does this person make me feel good about myself? Do you have a really close
friend who does make you feel this way? Make sure the person you marry
makes you feel the same way!

Are you afraid of this person in any way? You should not feel you need to
monitor what you say because you are afraid of how the other person will
view it. If you're afraid to express your feelings and opinions openly,
there's a problem with the relationship.

Be on the look out for someone who is always trying to change you. Another
aspect of feeling safe is that you don't feel the other person is trying to
control you. Controlling behaviors are a sign of an abusive person.

Be on the look out for someone who is always trying to change you. There's
a big difference between controlling" and "making suggestions."

A suggestion is made for your benefit; a control statement is made for
their benefit.

#8. You pick the wrong person because you don't put everything on the
table.

Anything that bothers you about the relationship must be brought up for
discussion. Bringing up the uncomfortable stuff is the only way to evaluate
how well the two of you communicate, negotiate, and work together. Over the
course of a lifetime, difficulties will inevitably arise. You need to know
now, before making a commitment:

Can you resolve your differences and find compromises that work for both of
you? Never be afraid to let the person know what bothers you. This is also
a way For you to test how vulnerable you can be with this person. If you
can't be vulnerable, then you can't be intimate. The two go hand in hand.

#9. You pick the wrong person because you use the relationship to escape
from personal problems and unhappiness.

If you are unhappy and single, you'll probably be unhappy and married, too.

Marriage does not fix personal, psychological and emotional problems. If
anything, marriage will exacerbate
them. If you are not happy with yourself and your life, take responsibility
to fix it now while you are single. You'll feel better, and your future
spouse will thank you.

#10. You pick the wrong person because he/she is involved in triangle.

To be "triangulated" means a person is emotionally dependent on someone or
something else while trying to develop another relationship. A person who
hasn't separated from his or her parents is the classic example of
triangulation. People can also be triangulated with things as well, such as
work, drugs, Internet, hobbies, sports or money.

Be careful that you and your partner are free of triangles. The person
caught in the triangle cannot be fully
emotionally available to you. You will not be their number one priority.
And that's no basis for a marriage.

Part 2 Nung First

We had dinner at Giligan’s, Parksquare…we had some booze after…tig-isa lang naman kami ng Vodka Ice…well more on half a bottle sa kanya tapos sa akin 1 ½…medyo mababa ang tolerance ni Love sa alcohol kaya nung nakita kong tinamaan siya sa Vodka eh ako na umubos nung huling glass.

Then nag-coffee uli sa Seattle’s Best…ang favorite niyang coffeehouse…

Went home…( ;;) )

Nag-brunch sa KFC, SM Manila (pinagtrippan ang ilang mga tao dun…sama namin noh?! Si 2-in-1 and si “wedjoh”..LOL)…pinagkwentuhan ang pagiging bitter niya sa lugar na ‘yun. Gumala saglit.

Went to Robinson’s Place, Ermita to pass the time. Trip down memory lane na rin yun for us both…dun naman ako nag-share ng aking bitter memories…well not really! Ehehehe. Slight lang! Hindi na kasi kailangan sariwain pa ang aking pangit na past sa lugar na yun! :D Isa pa, ang weekend na yun ay laan talaga para mag-celebrate kami kaya hindi na dapat pang alalahanin ang mga ganung bagay-bagay! Oh yeah muntik ko na makalimutan ang kakaibang experience namin...sacred na pagpapaligo kay Buddha...nagsulat din kami ng aming prayer petitions sa isang heart-shaped na red cartolina...after praying at yung sacred ritual binigyan pa kami ng bracelet na suot ko ngayon...

Nagsimba sa Malate Church…(the best ang idea na ito ni Love!) sobrang saya ko!

Nag-snack sa Starbucks, Adriatico…

Finally heading home…nang biglang umulan ng pagkalakas-lakas! Good thing may umbrella ako! Pero medyo nabasa pa rin kami kasi nga malakas talaga yung ulan! We finally decided na mag-LRT – MRT na lang para hassle free at mas mabilis!

Since Mother’s Day I decided to buy ice cream for Mom…(hindi yun suhol dahil 24 hours na niya akong hindi pa nakikita ha?!!) LOL...whatta wonderful weekend! Thank you, Love! :-*

First

This was taken yesterday when I shared a late night dinner/snack with Love. Simply romantic! :)

December 15 (What Your Birthdate Means...)

Your Birthdate: December 15

You take life as it is, and you find happiness in a variety of things. You tend to be close to family and friends. But it's hard to get into your inner circle. Making the little things wonderful is important to you, and you probably have an inviting home. You seek harmony with others, but occasionally you have a very stubborn streak. Your strength: Your intense optimism Your weakness: You shy away from exploring your talents Your power color: Jade Your power symbol: Flower Your power month: June

What Does Your Birth Date Mean?

Single and Available.

I was on my way home when I bumped into an old friend yesterday. Antagal naming walang communication ng friend ko na’to and we haven’t seen each other in years!

Typical hi’s & hello’s, kumustahan at balitaan. He’s already married with two kids. Nagulat pa siya when I told him na I’m still single. He asked why am I still single and how do I manage to stay that way…he even asked if I have any plans to get married and start my own family…hmmm.

Naalala ko tuloy yung best friend ko…si Ding. Last year he came home from the States and I had a chance to spend time with him despite his busy schedule. Bonding session…kumustahan at in-update ang isa’t-isa sa mga pinagkakaabalahan namin over the years. Surprised to find out na pareho kaming single pa!

“Dim, tayo na lang yata ang single sa barkada ah?!” he said with that weird smile on his face.

“Wala ka bang balak?” dagdag pa niya.

I couldn’t help but laugh. I am so used to being asked that same question over and over lalo na tuwing may family reunion.

Simple lang naman ang sagot ko, “masaya pa ako sa buhay ko at ayaw ko pa magpatiwakal!” sabay tatawa ng malakas.

I don’t know if became bitter over the years, I don’t know kung nagka-phobia na ba ako…nadala? Basta ayaw ko pa. I told my best friend na mayroon naman akong balak pero sa ngayon ay hindi ko muna yun pinagtutuunan ng pansin. Why should I focus myself on that eh ni wala nga akong boy friend to begin with? I told him na if ever eh hindi rin naman ako basta-basta mag-aasawa dahil sa hirap ng buhay ngayon dapat at least may konting ipon at dapat may sariling bahay na titirahan kahit na maliit lang basta yung property na talaga namin at ayoko makipisan sa parents namin or kung kanino, mahirap din mag-rent lang kasi sayang naman dun lang mapupunta ang pera…kung rent-to-own pwede pa!

Truth is I am still beginning to enjoy my single life…my freedom.

*Disclaimer: This entry was written couple of months ago...(back when I still don't have a boy friend). I'm still single but no longer available.

Almost the End...

Last Saturday I had a big fight with Bakla. We said things that we don’t normally say and I could actually feel na he was angry. He even said things that he never ever said to me before…he was friggin’ mad!

All because of one misunderstanding that led to a lot of confusion.

Lesson learned…never assume anything even if your intentions are good. I should know…I got beaten for wanting to spend more fun time with someone that I thought would enjoy it as much as I do, or would like the idea as much as I do.

...Oh well I'm glad we didn’t.